You will never get over losing someone that you love. You only learn to cope and survive through your hurt and sad days. I encourage you to take one day at a time. Grief is the most difficult thing that you will ever have in your life. It can happen with death, divorce, and toxic family issues.
Last year’s holiday season sent many sad and tragic situations for my family and me. This holiday season hasn’t been any easier. Losing my stepdad this year has been one of the most difficult things that I have had to deal with in my life. Yes, I grieved hard when I miscarried my baby, but I made it through with my faith and hope for more children in my future.
Prayer and talking to God has been a great way for me to cope. If you are going through loss and grief during this holiday season I encourage you to spend a lot of time talking to God and praying.
I found an amazing devotional on the YouVersion bible app that spoke to my soul. It’s called “Grief Bites: Hope for the Holidays” and it’s written by Kim Niles. It’s a 5-day reading plan filled with helpful tips, personal experiences, and suggestive ways to cope during not only the holidays but every day.
My stepdad’s death hit my heart differently. He loved the holidays and went out of his way every year to make them memorable. My mom and I are choosing to keep our family traditions going the best that we can, but we won’t make any promises to do things in our normal traditional way.
With the help of this devotional, I have learned that it’s okay to go through with cheerful holiday plans or just do nothing at all. It’s okay to also want to have solitude or unlimited alone time with God instead of family and friends.
You are entitled to have some sad days and tearful days. Grief does not have a time frame. It’s also perfectly normal to seek help from a therapist or pastor.
Some days it may take everything in you to shower, eat, or talk to the people around you. Be gentle and patient with yourself on the days that you cry or just feel sad. Other days you may feel like singing or going to lunch with friends. On the days that you find yourself bursting with hope, joy, and excitement embrace those days and enjoy those moments. It’s okay to express joy and happiness even when you feel moments of sadness in your heart. People may not understand changes in your expressions and that’s okay.
I hope that this post has helped you and I hope that you are blessed with happy and healthy days!
